Praying Honest Prayers.

Hello everyone! Recently, I’ve been very convicted in my prayer life. Growing up in a Christian home, going to church every Sunday, and having a lot of Christian friends, you hear a lot of generic prayers.

“Lord, thank you for this food we are about to receive. Thank you for this time we have together. In Your name, Amen.”

“Lord, thank you for all you’ve done for me. Please forgive me for my sins.”

“Dear God, thank you so much for blessing me with _____. Please help me ____.”

Is there anything wrong with these prayers? No, there is not. But I couldn’t help asking myself…. What has He done for me? What are my sins? Am I just saying these prayers, or do I mean them?

Here’s my thought process. God knows everything – including my struggles, my praises, and especially my heart. So, instead of praying how I think I’m supposed to, why don’t I just tell him the truth? That night I sat down with my prayer journal (writing helps me organize my prayer) and just starting pouring out my heart. The good and the bad, just telling God about my life. It was such a crazy feeling to just let go of everything and give it to Him.

Challenge yourself this week to pray some honest prayers!

Life… Why Am I Here Again?

Sometimes life does not go as we planned. Whether you don’t live where you thought you would, don’t have the job you think you should, don’t make the money you want to make, or don’t have the relationship you desire to have, we all have moments when we go… how did I get here? What am I doing with my life?

Moments like these I turn to the Lord. Usually it starts with a 30 minute written rant in my prayer journal about how life has wronged me. That tends to get a lot of my irritation/frustration out of my system so that I actually absorb what comes next. After that I turn to the Word. Sometimes the passage I’m reading fits perfectly with my situation, other times it has nothing to do with it. Either way, reading the Bible leaves me feeling more at peace. It’s a reminder that the Lord is my savior, not anyone on this earth (praise the Lord for that one).

Things may not be going how you wish they were, I know my life isn’t always. But rest assured knowing that the Lord is with you and He is in control.

I hope you all have a wonderful day!

How to Plan a Wedding in 3 Months.

Hello everyone! I, as some of you may know, got married a couple of month ago. We got engaged in January and were married in April… all in 2017. I wanted to share some tips and pointers on how we pulled off a beautiful wedding on a time crunch! When you plan a wedding on such short notice there are some things that you may have to give up that you originally wanted. However, planning a wedding in three months is entirely possible! I hope you enjoy!

  1. Start planning ASAP. There is a lot you need to think about right away. You don’t really have the luxury to “think about it”. Luckily, my husband and I had an idea already of what we wanted. By the end of January, we already had our save the dates sent, venue, DJ, photographer, bridesmaids & groomsmen, and caterer. Once you nail down these major things, there isn’t a ton left to be stressed about.
  2. Have a small wedding party. Now days you see wedding parties with 10 bridesmaids and 10 groomsmen. If you have that many friends, that’s great… but that ends up being 20 individuals you need to get fitted, dressed, and to the location of your wedding with places to stay (if they are out of town). My husband and I each picked two people. I chose my sister (maid of honor) and my closest friend (matron of honor).
  3. Know that many out of town guests may not be able to make it. When you give people 3 months notice on a wedding, it may be hard for them to save up enough money or be able to get off work to make it to your wedding. Luckily, all of the critical family and friends we have were able to come, but we weren’t expecting that up front.
  4. Keep an open mind. In order to plan a wedding quickly, you have to be flexible. I originally wanted the ceremony in a church and the reception in a barn. I was going to be rustic and quaint and absolutely picture perfect… that is until I started visiting barn venues. Turns out, they weren’t my style and the ones that were, were a little too far away. Then we ran into the snafu that no churches would marry us. We belonged to a small church that didn’t have it’s own building. We already knew that my grandfather was going to marry us, so we really just needed a church. All of the churches said that they only allow members to be married in their facilities. My “ideal” wedding had to get a make over because I needed a new plan and I needed one fast.
  5. Everything will work out beautifully. Just because you don’t have a lot of time, does not mean that it won’t be absolutely perfect. Yes, there are challenges with planning something so quickly, but it can be done! The week before the wedding is what I would consider the most emotional. I think I cried about 10 times that week. But you know what, everything ended up working out perfectly. (besides the DJ, he sucked).

Many people would come up to us and ask “why so soon?”, “why don’t you wait longer?”, or the best one “are you pregnant?”. No I am not pregnant. And my question to them was, “why not so soon?”, “why wait?”. When you know you want to be married and you have the capability to get married quickly, go for it! If you have any questions, let me know down in the comments!

Here are some pictures from our day!

*All pictures from Lesnick Photo*

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Getting To Know Me.

Hello everyone! I decided that in honor of starting my blog I’d do a little getting to know me Q&A. So… here we go :).

1.What is your middle name? Madeline.
2. What is your favorite drink? Alcoholic – anything fruity with tequila | Non-Alcoholic – Cranberry Juice.
3. What would you (or have you) name your children? Yes, my husband and I have a couple of names picked out, but they are a secret!
4. What is your favorite color? Green.
5. What is your favorite animal? Wolf.
6. What is your favorite holiday? CHRISTMAS.
7. On a scale from 1 – 10, rate your childhood. 10 – my parent’s did a great job to make sure my childhood was wonderful.
8. Have you been out of the country? Yes one time. I went to Costa Rica on a missions trip when I was 16.
9. Do you speak any different languages? No, I want to learn children because that’s what all of my husband’s family speaks… but it’s harder to learn than I thought.
10. Do you have any siblings? Yes, I have one older sister.
11. What is your favorite store? Lulu’s!
12. What is your favorite restaurant? Mellow Mushroom.
13. Did you like school? I liked school while I was in it; however, I stopped after my Associates degree because it wasn’t for me.
14. Who are some of your favorite YouTubers? Aspyn & Parker Ferris, Sierra Schultzie, and David Dobrik (LIZA).
15. What is your favorite movie? Any kind of action movie – I recently watch “Taken” and I thought it was incredible(y) (scary)!
16. What are some of your favorite tv shows? I really like crime shows like Bones, The Mentalist, and stuff like that.
17. PC or mac? PC all the way – Mac’s are so confusing for me.
18. How tall are you? 5’6″.
19. Do you have any pets? I have three beautiful pets! Bentley (dog), Toulouse (cat), and Berlioz (cat).

First Month of Marriage – What I’ve Learned.

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Ah… Wedded bliss. The first month of marriage is an interesting one to say the least. Finally, the stress of planning the wedding is over and things are starting to go to their new normal. Not only are their new challenges if you’re not used to living with your new spouse, but there are also logistical challenges. A trial month, if you will, of figuring out this new role you now play in each others’ lives. Here’s a couple of things I learned:

Number 1 – Your spouse is a person. Wait… what do you mean they’re a person. Are you trying to tell me that my spouse is not like a third arm or leg that’s wired to do exactly what my brain tells it to do!? Actually, that is exactly what I mean. Your spouse is in fact, an individual. As crazy as this may sound, your spouse was an individual before you and they will continue to be one the rest of their lives. For example, you know that little voice inside your head that you talk to all day long. Sometimes when you’re mad at someone you use it to yell at them in your head. If you’re having a good day you even use it to come up with new ideas! Yeah, well your spouse has one too. And it does NOT communicate with your little voice. So not only does your spouse not always know what you’re thinking, but they have original thoughts themselves aside from you.

Number 2 – Your spouse does not complete you. Sorry ladies, but it’s time to put your childhood dreams of finding that one magic person put on this planet to complete you aside. Your spouse does not complete you. Their personality or characteristics may compliment yours, but they by no means, way, shape, or form complete you. You survived before them, and as hard as it may seem, you would survive without them. I’m not saying that you want to, but I guarantee that if they were gone you would still have a pulse…just saying.

Number 3 – You can have separate interests. I do not find all my husbands activities entertaining. And I can promise you that he doesn’t find all of mine entertaining either. Sometimes this difference will mean time apart, like when he goes out to play softball. Other times, we can do separate things together, like crocheting while he plays video games. Or maybe we’re feeling lazy and binge watch Gossip Girl together. Either way, it’s okay to take time apart from each other to pursue your hobbies and passions. You just need to learn how to support, even if it’s from a distance. (like I mentally support my husband while he’s playing softball and I’m in bed).

All of these things may sound obvious, but it’s funny how quickly you can forget such simple things. I’m looking forward to all that I will learn in the many more weeks, months, and years to come.